Liturgical Abuse as Spousal Abuse

Many religious accept liturgical abuse in a manner similar to how a wife will often accept spousal abuse — from a false sense of charity and tolerance. It is not that the perpetrator of abuse is completely evil, he often possesses many virtues and admirable qualities. The victim of liturgical abuse, like the victim of spousal abuse, wants to be forgiving, wants to practice tolerance, wants to be charitable. The abuser takes advantage of such desires and sentiments and continues to abuse.
Rev. Vincent Capuano, SJ, Adoremus Bulletin

The same could be said for the laity who have to endure atrociously-conceived modifications to the mass made on the fly by some preening cleric.

via Amy Welborn